The Thirty Year Old Sexual Peak
by: Advice Diva
I recently had the unpleasant experience of
turning thirty much to my chagrin. However, I will forever
allege that this was not my fault. Time was moving much too
swiftly and although I tried my best to stay in the sexy and
swinging twenties, I lost my grip and fell flat on my face
in my thirties. I am led to believe that I will not be allowed
to return. The horror. The horror.
Aside from my momentary lapses of self pity,
there are some great benefits to being a woman in her thirties.
As you probably guessed from the title of this article, I
am now in my sexual prime. It seems like a cruel joke. Guys
can't think about anything but the tent pole in their pants
while in their teens and early twenties. But by the time women
get to the same stage, the men are calling in reinforcements
of Viagra. I am sure you have all heard about this before.
Women hit their sexual prime at thirty......or do they? I
almost half expected to become some raging ball of hormones
as if I was pushed on by a button when I turned thirty. I
was looking forward to it. To my dismay, no such transformation
has occurred.
Shedding light on this curiosity of mine was
Dr. Sandor Gardos, a doctor in sexual education. According
to Dr. Gardos, the notion that women hit their sexual peak
at 30 is very misleading. You will find many websites and
articles on the very subject talking about how women get their
groove on and peak at 30, or 35 while others say 40. But if
you are talking about a hormone flux, this is simply not true.
Men and women develop the same hormones at the same time:
puberty. The only reason why women seem so much more interested
at a later age is because we were taught NOT to be interested
in sex when we were kids. If you experimented with sex like
the boys did, you would be labeled the town Jezebel. Only
when women mature are they able to feel more comfortable talking
about and practicing sex. They finally open up and begin to
feel normal about desiring sex.
Then it becomes a whole new world for women.
The reason why people argue about the age of the sexual peak
in women is because it varies for each women. It might take
some women, for example, longer to learn how to orgasm. But
when each woman finally feels comfortable with her body and
the virtues of sex, it just might be like hitting puberty
for her, especially if she had always lived a reserved or
conservative life. This can be a great time in a woman's life;
a true sexual awakening. And if you measure a sexual peak
by interest level, then you can say that she has hit her prime.
On the other hand, there are some women who go wild and crazy
in their twenties and never give a thought to those societal
messages, i.e. “Good Girls Don't”. All things considered,
these girls may not experience this sudden surge of sexual
prowess at the 35 year mark. They have already experienced
it all. Ahem. But not me, of course. I am an angel.
If there are any young guys out there who
are tempted to seduce an older woman just because she may
be in her sexual prime and easily lured by an open invitation,
you may want to think again. However, it may interest all
men and women to know that according to a recent publication
in the Oxford Journals, women do experience a subtle phase
of heat on a monthly schedule. Mid-month on her cycle to be
exact. During this time, women are shown to be more attracted
to androstenone (a pheromone like sweat substance), are more
attracted to symmetrical and masculine faces and more attracted
to the subject of sex. Even as basic as this is, its still
fun to talk about. In the same journal, I also uncovered a
freaky fun fact. The word for heat, Estrus, comes from a Greek
word 'oistrus' which means Gadfly. Literally, it means 'in
a frenzied state' because when the gadflies would buzz around
cattle, they would drive the cattle into a frenzied state
which resembled the same state they go into when they wanted
to mate. So when scientists refer to estrus in a female, remember
that this concept originated from cows.
About The Author
The Advice Diva has written three self-help
guides on relationships and dating which can be found at http://www.advicediva.com.
She also hosts an online advice column which is completely
free of charge. The Diva does not claim to be an expert in
any field. However, she has the ability to understand relationhips
through past experience and her incredible insight. Aside
from her website, the Diva also publishes monthly articles
in two magazines and several notable websites.
thediva@adviecdiva.com
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